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                                "Self obsession" DILEMMA

Self Obsession Antonella Renzulli by Antonella Renzulli

The act of snapping every tiny moment of fun or good enjoyment takes away the true enjoyment. Instead of enjoying, we get lost in trying to get the perfect photo, sometimes for ourselves and sometimes to show off-(look at my good life!), clock ticks, we didn’t enjoy it at all, we go home and end up deleting all the photos but one that seems perfect to us, sometimes sad because we didn’t like any.

 And so the cycle goes on and on. It goes beyond making memories but becomes the sore purpose of an outing. A photo taken for memories will always be a source of great happiness even if not perfect. 

Have you ever gotten a video or photo with friends -definitely! who hasn't, okay yeah not the point- but then when you are in posession of it, instead of just posting or looking at others in it, you only look at yourself and if you're looking perfect then you can post it but if not "delete or cancel buttons". In that moment nothing matters but you, you don't care how others look it's just all about you. Now here I can ask, have you ever been in such a situation of only looking at yourself in a video or photo and as long as you were perfect it was okay?

With these scenarios presented above its evidence that we are obsessed with our selves and it's not a problem  because you have to love yourself right? No one's got you like you do isn't? You are all you have!! I mean!,  no one understands you better than yourself and in reality no one really cares. And so youare doing nothing wrong sweety!

And if you've ever thought about all this, there's maybe been time you felt it was bad ,but all you needed was somebody to assure you, "no you're not wrong for chosing yourself, you need to put yourself first",DO YOU!.. This is the gospel of our time. Literally one of the best comforting words.  Now at this moment you might choose to deny that that's not self obession, its okay, but just agree for now that this is the GenZ gospel, in fact YOLO!

This is where the problem is.The underestimation of the "power of self." Me!Me!Me! nothing but me! seeing the need of always being given, understood, loved yet never realising your role of giving, understanding, and loving. Self makes you a recipient but never the giver. You are receiving excess but never giving out you're stuffed.